Thursday, June 30, 2011
By the time I realized I was actually in labor it was only an hour later that Jane was born. So if you can do a little math, here's the scenario. Midwife is in Layton. I live in Avon. Time in transit is 1 hour and 5 minutes to be exact. Therefore Jane was delivered by her dad. Yep, James delivered Jane and did an amazing job keeping it all together. I knew that the midwife wouldn't make it in time, but everything was going just the same as with the last two kids. All was perfect. I knew exactly where I was time wise by how things were feeling. I let James know that the midwife wouldn't quite make it, and he set to work. Birthing tub was filled, hospital pads set out, towels warming in the dryer, and even a call to our local florist. All went amazingly well. She came out and immediately started crying. She pinked right up. There we sat, the three of us just hugging, and kissing, and being completely happy. The midwife was on the phone with James as soon as Jane was born letting him know what to do. He was amazing. He's told me since, he was nervous, but he did an amazing job and never let it show. I never felt his stress, and for me this was the most wonderful experience. As I lay in my own bed minutes after, nursing a perfect little girl I just smiled. James commented on how happy I looked. I would do everything exactly the same if I had the chance.
We didn't tell many people because as you know everyone has their own opinion of home births. Most of it is very negative. My parent knew and every time I saw or talked to my dad he'd put in his, "Won't you please go to the hospital?" My mom was encouraging. She always had an encouraging word. My grandma was absolutely relieved when I called to tell her all was well. My sibling think I'm a pioneer who really does live in the wilderness. I've had my own opinion of some people who deliver at home. Everyone has a horror story. I did a lot of research and talked to as many people as I could. I met with a few different midwifes before picking the one I used. Heather my midwife has been delivering babies for 15 years, and has delivered more than 800. She was knowledgeable, smart, confident, but yet when asked about certain scenarios she wasn't overly confident. I wanted someone who was smart enough to transport if necessary and knew her limits. I get asked if I had regular prenatal care, and I can say this pregnancy was the best in that respect. I had more questions answered and one on one communication with my health care provider than ever before. Also I'm asked if I was given all the tests that a regular OB does. The answer to that is yes as well. The state of Utah requires a lot of testing, and even a midwife has to meet the states requirements. Also I'm RH negative and require a rhogam shot during pregnancy, and after delivery. Heather is qualified to do all that. She is qualified to do a lot more as well. I felt totally at easy with using a midwife. I also knew what my body does, and how a normal pregnancy should be.
The other day James was talking with a friend and they asked about the baby. When they heard about the delivery at home his response to James was, "I didn't know you were one of those people." We aren't one of "those" people. We're just normal people who wanted to have a baby our way. We aren't too granola, or natural or holistic. We don't eat organic, and I love white bread as well as wheat bread. I shop at Wal-mart as well as Trader Joe's when I get a chance. But having a baby at home was perfect for us. The experience of having a baby is empowering for me. I feel strong. I feel like I'm a part of the whole process. Babies are beautiful, and such a gift from heaven. I am grateful to be a mom to 5 beautiful, perfect kids.